Showing posts with label Ray & Maggie Risley. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ray & Maggie Risley. Show all posts

Monday, October 31, 2011

Snow on the Pumpkins

The only message I got on my cell phone while on vacation in Istanbul was from my friend Ray. Because of the expense, my phone message said, “Please don't call me while I am away in Europe."

Ray asks, “Can we meet them for dinner around October 30th? It is Maggie’s sixty-fifth birthday.”

What an honor to be invited. It is just the four of us. The Risleys married the same year as us, 1967. Shaun was born two days later.

I am two weeks older than Ray. He calls me sometimes for advice. So many of my closer friends were born in Abril. We have been friends for forty-six years. You can't make this STUFF up. We met while serving together in the Navy.

“Which restaurant?” Ray’s message said only, "Mexican." They live three hours away. It has to be El Sarape or Casa Romero.





Eventually we find out that a Casa Romero business card on a Bob's Mail prompted this wonderful idea of Ray’s.



We leave Marshfield with an hour to travel. The dashboard says that it is 41 degrees. The weather report calls for " Unusual New England Winter Snowstorm." No one would have had to tell the local Wampanoag Indians that, just because of two facts. The oak trees shed no acorns this year, and secondly we are unusually buried heavily in pine needles.

It is black out and raining hard. Six o'clock dinner reservations. Hey! We have been friends forever and at least it isn't four thirty for the Early Bird Special in the great state of Florida.

South East Expressway. 39 degrees. Off at Mass Ave. That’s Massachusetts Avenue to you out-of-towners. Right onto Boylston. Back Bay. Park near the Hynes. 37 degrees.

Walk to Hereford Street where the Boston Marathon takes a hard right off Commonwealth Avenue very close to the finish line. 2012 will be the 116th running. Wow! My last one was the 100th.

The wind always seems stronger and colder in a city doesn't it? How many times have we done this over the years? For many years it was Charlie’s Eating and Drinking Saloon after shows. Do you remember? The waiters in black, with those large, long, old-fashioned white aprons. Male waiters. No female waitresses. Exactly the way it still is in Prague or Athens or especially Istanbul. A far cry from the Charlie’s of today. "Can I help YOU GUYS?"



Look down the one way street for the small red lit-up sign with the words in gold, “Casa Romero.” Interestingly, many Pittsfield brides-to-be hold their bridal showers here. Here being 150 miles east of the Berkshires. "The Berkshires seemed dreamlike on account of that frosting, with 10 miles behind me and . . . “ Oops, sorry. Couldn't control the James Taylor moment.

My ungloved umbrella hand is freezing. This horrid weather came about because Tomas Donovan bought a snow blower a month ago. Three messages on Facebook tell about the approaching storm. Leslie in New Hampshire says it’s really coming down. Stephanie Egan says the snow in Pennsylvania was pretty until the branches, many still with leaves, started breaking (her photos on Facebook show a lot of snow and downed trees). Kathy Stroll said New York was getting hammered (her Facebook photos look even worse). Thank you so much, Tomas.



Sandy and I have been patrons for more than twenty-four years at Senor Leo Romero's house. As usual it was Sandy's idea to try out this Mexican place in Boston. An advertisement in Boston Magazine prompted it. I must admit she has good ideas. She asked me repeatedly to marry her, even on the very first night we met. Did I ever tell you that story?

It was here in 1987 that we first heard about a special little Mexican Island from our Mexican waitress. I asked, "Where do Mexican people go on vacation?" This Febrero will be our 24th trip south of the border.

I had my 50th birthday here at the restaurant. Just my male friends. I don't know why. I just did. OK? Get over it, Jeannette and Donna. I have the photo in my office. We were so young and looked so good back then.



Mr. Romero greets us. This is the oldest continuously-operated restaurant in the Back Bay. Thirty seven years so far. He looks dapper and very well indeed. Uncle George would say. "He has fine carriage."



At first he says that he was originally from Merida, but later says Mexico City. If you ever find yourself in Merida, riding the local bus past a Catholic church, be prepared to do the "Sign of the Cross," as every Catholic person does there when they pass a church. I guess it is the same in Italy.

His food he calls Mexico City style. Please order something other than a burrito or taco when you finally come here for comida, por favor. It would be an especially fine idea if you invite me along.

He says that he first visited Isla Mujeres when he was just ten years old.

It is beautiful and warm here and the Casa is just starting to get busy. Maggie and Ray are waiting at a nice cozy table in a corner.


Ray and Maggie posed for this photo years ago.

The conversation picks up right where we left off the last time we got together. Maggie gets a phone call from her son. It has snowed one foot so far in Pittsfield, and it is still coming down hard.

In Worcester, it is snowing with many power outages. I try not to think about the ride home with the temperature dropping.

The margaritas are so good. We choose the one called "Perfect" and it is. Ray says to be careful of the verde sauce.

The Risley family is a throwback back to the old ways, the old days. What a great family life they lead! They have four (soon to be six) grandchildren compared to our one.

Ray has a gift for Maggie, a very pretty necklace. Hey? You do not stay married this long by accident.

Maggie puts the necklace on. Almost on cue, the lights dim and the tune Happy Birthday plays, as our waiter brings over a flan with a candle in it, with “Feliz Cumpleanos” written in chocolate on the plate. Everyone applauds.

The spirit moves me, and I get up and demonstrate the famous Mexican Hat Dance. Remember? Da da dada dada da dada. I bow at the end. Patrons shower me with pesos. The total surprisingly pays the bill and even the propina. Or maybe it was RayRay who paid. Everything got kind of blurry towards the end of the evening.

As we are leaving, eight people come in and bring the cold with them, as if they have little A/C units installed on their person. You know what I mean! Their bill will be probably four hundred dollars plus propina I would guess.

North on Boylston it says still 37 degrees. The blinking signs on the Southeast Expressway say, "Please stay off the highway so we can keep it clear." Even though there is no sign of snow yet. Unusual winter storm watch indeed.

Route 3 south towards the Cape, and the outside temperature warms to a balmy 41 degrees. I guess the worst will hit after midnight. We miss the snow and wind in Boston and Revere by two hours.

Our casa is warm. I have been burning oak and cherry wood all day and it is not even Noviembre yet. Thanks for listening. You did not interrupt me, not even once.

Your Friend,
RobertoTocino

T. S. Eliot said, "April is the cruelest month. Except for the chocolate bunnies."

Just so you know, Sandy and I will take a warm meal with old friends in any month.

Friday, June 25, 2010

A Nice Long Friendship

Last night Sandy and I drove to South Yarmouth to visit old Navy friends, Maggie and Ray Risley, who had rented a house near the beach for a week. Almost everyone there had on a Club Bacon tee shirt to greet us. They have been to every party that we have ever had. Only Marnie and Allan Sylvester still fit in their Mexican Pool Party 1984 shirts. More than likely Randy Adams still fits in his also. Oh ! And both the Heberleins.

We became good friends with Ray and Maggie 45 years ago while in the Navy. He didn't even get mad at me years ago when I drove his Ford off an icy Mass Pike into thankfully a very thick snow drift while being called back to the Naval Air Station to plow the runways. Do you know where the sign is that says “highest point in elevation on the Massachusetts Turnpike?” That is where we went into the snowdrift. “Oh the Berkshires were covered in snow and so was the turnpike from Stockbridge to Boston.” It sure was that night. Every time I hear James Taylor sing that song I think of that very eventful night. Wait a minute. Is that correct? How is that possible? Yup! Forty-five years ago.

When we left Marshfield it was 93 degrees. Just before we hit the Cape Cod Canal it was down to 83. By the time we arrived in South Yarmouth it was 78. That was a 15-degree difference over a 50-mile drive.



Three out of four of the Risley kids were there with their children. Their good friend Sue Keefe was there also. Well yah, she gets Bob Mail. Shaun, Bridget and Katie did all the cooking and drink mixing. Mostly Shaun. He does much of the cooking at home too. Many of our male friends do that: Gene Spriggs, Dick Brown, John Cerri and Charles Gregory, to name a few. I cook twice a week but I do not enjoy doing it. At the Cape, we had shrimp, chicken and beef tacos, Denver style. The green peppers were killers. The green poppers were wonderful. All Sandy and I had to do was to bring dessert and pretend that we were enjoying being catered to. Boy did that feel good. All the Risleys treat us like family. They always have.



Shaun and Rachel came all the way from Denver with their new son, Flynn. Flynn was Margaret Mary's maiden name. No really, Maggie was once a maiden. I know. I was there. Trust me. We attended Shaun and Rachel's wedding in Denver. We have attended all the kids’ weddings and the next one is Katie and Ray's in Pittsfield, Massachusetts on New Years Eve. Ray and Maggie have always been there for us. When Sandy's Dad passed way too early or when Marnie was sick in the Berkshires and Maggie said, "Go on your vacation, I will take care of her."

While at Shaun and Rachel's wedding, someone at our table mentioned that the bride and groom were going to Costa Rica for their honeymoon. We asked them where they were staying and they said MAKANDA in Quepos. We love that hotel -- it is one of our favorites -- and we also gave them tips on traveling in Costa Rica. So that was a really nice connection. Last night we had another nice connection. Shaun proposed to Rachel at another favorite spot of ours, Ojo Caliente Spa, just north of Santa Fe in New Mexico. The state, not the country. And NO! I didn't take any of the potshards from the ancient ruin just above the spa. There were really too many of them anyway if I did take one or two.



We drove back late with a beautiful full moon to look at all the way home, while visions of delicious, ice cold, margaritas danced in our heads.

Alexandra and Roberto Tocino -- still having fun